Notes from this Episode

Background

• New Year’s is always the time when people really think more intentionally about setting goals, so when you are thinking about your personal goals, consider whether you are past focused or future focused.

Past v. Future Focused

• If you are past focused, your primary thought becomes, “It is what it is”.
  • In your marriage, you might live in the past of disappointments, disagreements, and unmet expectations.
  • In your marriage, you might live in the past of disappointments, disagreements, and unmet expectations.
  • When considering your children, you may have decided that your children are just strong-willed and are not capable of listening to us or respecting us.
  • In looking at your home management, you may have proclaimed that you are a mess and it is okay to live with dirty dishes and junk around the house.
• Decide to be future focused!  Why settle for living in the comfort or discomfort of the past?
  • You can be the woman who is happy in her marriage, who can set expectations for her children, and can live in a clean home.

Set Future Focused Goals

• Set a goal (or goals) to change.  Decide on the woman you want to be.  Just because you have lived as one person all your life, does not mean you have to stay that person.
  • Set goals to work towards the life you want in your marriage: to be more connected, more understanding and empathetic, to have more fun, and to be more intimate.
  • Your future focused goals for home management can be to ask yourself what kind of home do you want to live in, how will that make you feel, and what do you need to accomplish in order to get there?
  • When considering your motherhood, think about what kind of adults you want your children to be, and then set action goals for your children to begin to become that kind of adult.
• When you think of the kind of woman you want to be, what do you think she does in order to be that?
  • Does she pray?  Eat well?  Exercise?

Final Thoughts

• How many hears are you going to complain that you can’t?
• Put your big girl pants on and decide you can and you will, and do not stop trying until your goal is automatic in your life.  Then create another goal and begin again.
• That is how we grow into the woman God is calling us to be – by creating a new future of who we want to be and of who we are called to be.