Notes from this Episode:

Background

• This podcast is being published during the month of February.  Of course, February is Valentine’s Day month, and suddenly, one day a year, we prioritize our marriage and pay attention to our spouse.
• Why do we take one day a year to really prioritize our marriage, to be conscious of it? 
• Can we take prioritizing our marriage out of one day a year and put it throughout the whole year?

Some Questions to Ask Yourself

• Is your marriage your first priority?  Do you encourage and support your husband?
• Do you find ways to show him your love, even when you do not feel like it?  Is he first in your list of family priorities, or do the children and their wants and needs come first?
• Do you greet him first in the morning or at the end of the day with a smile and a kiss?
• Do you nurture him? Do you nurture within yourself a tally of good thoughts about him and gratitude for him?  Do you pray for him daily?

We Are All Doing Our Best

• Many of us will need to die to our desires, our expectations, and our happiness for a time to love our spouse.
• We cannot control his behavior, but we can control ours.
• Do we believe that our husband is doing the best he can at that time?

Final Thoughts

• We are all nurturers, but we seem to stop nurturing our husbands when our children come along and we transfer our nurturing powers to them.
  • We were attentive and won him over during our dating period, but now he is no longer at the top of our minds anymore.
• Make your husband the first priority of your day, after God.  Shower him with love and affection and with respect, especially during the hard times.
  • All marriages have hard times, and sometimes those hard times are longer than others.
• Die to yourself for him, for you, for the two of you as a way to nurture him.
• One person can change the course of history, but one person can also change the course of a marriage.  Be the one to begin again, prioritizing your relationship.